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Why Do We Have Feelings; By Jim Manske

Imagine it was your job to operate a complex piece of machinery, for example being the pilot of an aircraft. As the pilot, you have clarity on your role, and you have been well trained to perform it. And then, imagine you volunteer to fly a new kind of an airplane as a test pilot. [...]

By | November 9th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Why Do We Have Feelings; By Jim Manske

Being Present with Feelings; by Jim Manske

  I remember the first time I saw a kaleidoscope. I felt awed by the ever-changing, unique patterns that materialized and disappeared as I manipulated it. I felt entranced by the beauty and complexity, joyfully astonished at the seemingly infinite variety of temporary pattern and color. I still feel excited when I see kaleidoscopes! When [...]

By | September 24th, 2018|Classes, Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Social and Emotional Learning, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Being Present with Feelings; by Jim Manske

Compassion & Empathy; By Jaya Manske

There is a cost to compassion and empathy. When everything, all your love, all your care, all your passion is extended outward, there is an exhaustion that sets in slowly and lightly, and then eventually so heavy it’s hard to move. Remember to turn some of that compassion inward. One of the most profound moments [...]

By | September 5th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Compassion & Empathy; By Jaya Manske

Judgment and Insight

In my experience, I almost always judge a person or situation because I would judge myself in the same way if I behaved that way. For example, in the culture I grew up in, it was considered impolite to interrupt, that is, to begin speaking before another person finishes. So, I have created lots of [...]

On Needs by Jim Manske

For me, the word “need” (as a noun)  points to the essential, intrinsic energy that impels movement toward survival and thriving within living organisms.  In other words, the power that motivates all behaviors. Essential means “absolutely necessary”. Intrinsic means “inside, coming from within” the organism.  (The dictionary says “belonging naturally”. Motivational means“spurring action toward a [...]

NVC in Action: Relationship Dynamics by Aubree Moon

  This past week, I had a conflict come up with my partner as we were going to sleep. I was feeling sad, and my sadness triggered his anger. He said something to that effect, and I was instantly triggered. A sentence rose in my mind, something along the lines of “I give you support [...]

By | February 20th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on NVC in Action: Relationship Dynamics by Aubree Moon

Let it RAIN! -Jim Manske CNVC Certified Trainer

For me, remembering the distinction between needs and strategies supports well-being because it goes to the root of suffering.  To clarify what I mean, consider this example I heard at a recent workshop:  “When I need empathy and understanding I want to rely on my mate.  There is something about the quality of intimacy and [...]

By | February 5th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development|Comments Off on Let it RAIN! -Jim Manske CNVC Certified Trainer

Why did the chicken cross the road? by Jim Manske

My guess is before you even finished reading that sentence, you already knew the answer.  That ancient childhood joke has become part of how we experience the world at an intuitive level. Remarkably, for me, the joke contains an important insight into Nonviolent Communication (NVC). As humans, we intuitively know that every behavior is motivated [...]

How Do You Teach Empathy?

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED JULY 30, 2005 I like Marshall Rosenberg’s definition of empathy for its simplicity and clarity.  He says, “Empathy is the respectful understanding of another person’s experience.” We also distinguish between “empathy”, which focuses our attention and presence on what is alive in another person, and “sympathy”, which shifts the focus to our own [...]

What if there’s no such thing as a perfect strategy? by Jim Manske, CNVC Trainer

What if there's no such thing as a perfect strategy?  (Strategies are behaviors intended to contribute to fulfilling a universal human need.) What that means to me is that no matter which strategic choice I make, some needs will be satisfied while others remain hungry. We all do the best we can to make wise [...]

By | December 26th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on What if there’s no such thing as a perfect strategy? by Jim Manske, CNVC Trainer

Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred – a blog article by Miki Kashtan

...Although this was very tender for her, she wasn’t bringing it up for empathy or sympathy. She was bringing it up because she wanted to find a way to transform her thinking about what her sister had shared with her, so she would know what to do with the violent thoughts that were populating her [...]

By | November 20th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred – a blog article by Miki Kashtan

Check out this new Mood Tracking app created by a Yale-based Emotional Intelligence scientist

For those of you with Android or iOS devices, there is a 'feelings' app that can help a person assess one's mood and associating feelings, and can be used as a tool for tracing feelings to their underlying source, in order to provide clear personalized information around one's values and boundaries for navigating life with [...]

By | November 1st, 2017|Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Check out this new Mood Tracking app created by a Yale-based Emotional Intelligence scientist

How Nonviolent Communication Liberated One Former Inmate

"In the Nas song “Rewind,” there is a part in the beginning when he says, “the bullet goes back into the gun. ” As a former inmate who celebrated his one-year anniversary out of prison this month, I wish I could rewind and undo every violent experience I’ve had: a prison guard stripping me naked and [...]

By | November 1st, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on How Nonviolent Communication Liberated One Former Inmate

Cultivating the Courage to make Authentic Requests

6/10/17 by Stephanie Weisman, NVCnextgen Administrative Support Team Member In my weekly NVC practice group, we've been dissecting the components of the "OFNR" NVC process, where ~ "O" = Observation "F" = Feelings "N" = Needs "R" = Requests During the course of this extended exploration, I've learned that "When we make an authentic request, we [...]

By | June 12th, 2017|Classes, Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Cultivating the Courage to make Authentic Requests