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N>N>N>N Four Skills of Self-Empathy; by Jim Manske

Notice Name Need Now Here’s a quick self-empathy tool you can try, an homage to the 14th letter of the English alphabet, the letter N. 1. Notice.   Notice what’s happening, right  now.  You can notice anything, and it can contribute to self-reflection and self-understanding. You can notice a feeling, especially a feeling of separateness.  You may [...]

By | September 10th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Empathy Development, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on N>N>N>N Four Skills of Self-Empathy; by Jim Manske

Compassion & Empathy; By Jaya Manske

There is a cost to compassion and empathy. When everything, all your love, all your care, all your passion is extended outward, there is an exhaustion that sets in slowly and lightly, and then eventually so heavy it’s hard to move. Remember to turn some of that compassion inward. One of the most profound moments [...]

By | September 5th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Compassion & Empathy; By Jaya Manske

Why does NVC focus on direct experience rather than creating a new belief system? By Jim Manske

For me, I am learning that thinking (beliefs), although useful for 3 outcomes*, often gets in the way of realizing the connection that is always present when I am observing.  Living in Hawai'i has contributed to trusting my direct experience. When I go to my direct experience, I do not find any boundary between "me" [...]

By | August 24th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Why does NVC focus on direct experience rather than creating a new belief system? By Jim Manske

Please” or “Thank You” by Jim Manske

Marshall Rosenberg taught me that all communication boils down to us saying either “please” or “thank you”. Seems like most of what “we” post on Facebook or other social media is more the “Thank you” side rather than the “please” side. We celebrate life events, travel experiences, friendships, encounters, workshops, insights, etc. Exceptions seem to be around [...]

By | August 8th, 2018|Empathy Development, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Please” or “Thank You” by Jim Manske

Judgment and Insight

In my experience, I almost always judge a person or situation because I would judge myself in the same way if I behaved that way. For example, in the culture I grew up in, it was considered impolite to interrupt, that is, to begin speaking before another person finishes. So, I have created lots of [...]

Standing Your Ground on the Foundation of Intention

Effectively connecting to the Zero Step leads you to understand the needs you are hoping to meet before you open your mouth.  The next step to weaving a connected conversation begins with warmly and vulnerably exposing those needs when you start a conversation.  In other words, we let the other person know our intention and [...]

By | June 18th, 2018|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Standing Your Ground on the Foundation of Intention

Update from Hong Kong; By Jim Manske

Hong Kong is like island living on steroids.  Surrounded by familiar tropical flora like ti trees and hibiscus flowers, the energy of the city vibrates with the constant background buzz of construction.  The skyline is dotted with lush green peaks and a myriad of industrial cranes hoisting new skyscrapers in every direction.  With a scarcity [...]

By | April 9th, 2018|Nonviolent Communication, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Update from Hong Kong; By Jim Manske

Fear

Walking quickly and alone along a wooded path at the conference center, I heard heavy footsteps and I felt a stab of fear.  I looked up to see a deer about 20 feet away on the hill.  I felt relief and connected to the beauty of the life around me.  Reflecting, I realized that I [...]

By | April 9th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy|Comments Off on Fear

Greater Self Empathy through Somatic Realizations by Aubree Moon

This week I had a somatic realization in relation to self-empathy. My partner and I had been talking and the conversation led us to both become slightly triggered. It was a mild upset, but we both needed a little bit of space to cool off. As I sat alone reflecting, I noticed a strong desire [...]

By | March 12th, 2018|Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Greater Self Empathy through Somatic Realizations by Aubree Moon

“The Zero Step:  What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!  Jim Manske Certified Trainer for The Center for Nonviolent Communication

“The Zero Step:  What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!   “Know what you want before you open your mouth.”  -Marshall Rosenberg, developer of Nonviolent Communication The Story of the Zero Step  Shortly after meeting Marshall Rosenberg in November of 2000, Jori and I started attending the Community NVC Practice [...]

By | March 5th, 2018|NVC, NVC NextGen, Parenting Classes, Peer Mediation, Self-Empathy, Uncategorized|Comments Off on “The Zero Step:  What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!  Jim Manske Certified Trainer for The Center for Nonviolent Communication

On Needs by Jim Manske

For me, the word “need” (as a noun)  points to the essential, intrinsic energy that impels movement toward survival and thriving within living organisms.  In other words, the power that motivates all behaviors. Essential means “absolutely necessary”. Intrinsic means “inside, coming from within” the organism.  (The dictionary says “belonging naturally”. Motivational means“spurring action toward a [...]

NVC in Action: Relationship Dynamics by Aubree Moon

  This past week, I had a conflict come up with my partner as we were going to sleep. I was feeling sad, and my sadness triggered his anger. He said something to that effect, and I was instantly triggered. A sentence rose in my mind, something along the lines of “I give you support [...]

By | February 20th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on NVC in Action: Relationship Dynamics by Aubree Moon

Why did the chicken cross the road? by Jim Manske

My guess is before you even finished reading that sentence, you already knew the answer.  That ancient childhood joke has become part of how we experience the world at an intuitive level. Remarkably, for me, the joke contains an important insight into Nonviolent Communication (NVC). As humans, we intuitively know that every behavior is motivated [...]

How Do You Teach Empathy?

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED JULY 30, 2005 I like Marshall Rosenberg’s definition of empathy for its simplicity and clarity.  He says, “Empathy is the respectful understanding of another person’s experience.” We also distinguish between “empathy”, which focuses our attention and presence on what is alive in another person, and “sympathy”, which shifts the focus to our own [...]

What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? A CNVC Trainer’s answers

I’m grateful for the feedback I received from my last post.  Here comes two new questions recently posed on our trainer group along with my responses: What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? I enjoy the precision that comes when someone asks for the meaning of a word or concept.  I like slowing [...]

By | January 8th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? A CNVC Trainer’s answers

Questions and Answers addressed by CNVC Certified Trainers

Questions and Answers ~ Since I am a certified trainer with The Center for Nonviolent Communication, I have the benefit of participating in an online discussion group with my colleagues.  Recently one trainer asked the rest of us for feedback on some questions she had received from organizers of a project she was working on.  [...]

By | January 2nd, 2018|Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Questions and Answers addressed by CNVC Certified Trainers

What if there’s no such thing as a perfect strategy? by Jim Manske, CNVC Trainer

What if there's no such thing as a perfect strategy?  (Strategies are behaviors intended to contribute to fulfilling a universal human need.) What that means to me is that no matter which strategic choice I make, some needs will be satisfied while others remain hungry. We all do the best we can to make wise [...]

By | December 26th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on What if there’s no such thing as a perfect strategy? by Jim Manske, CNVC Trainer

The Zero Step of NVC or “I’ll work on me, you work on you.”

Elizabeth “I’ll work on me, you work on you.” Once we learn a communication tool like NVC, our enthusiasm can extend to a heartfelt desire to share it with others.  We imagine that if we are benefiting from the tools of empathy, honesty and self-connection, those we love and care for will also.  [...]

By | December 26th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on The Zero Step of NVC or “I’ll work on me, you work on you.”

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on “mutual giving from [...]

By | December 11th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving