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Why does NVC focus on direct experience rather than creating a new belief system? By Jim Manske

For me, I am learning that thinking (beliefs), although useful for 3 outcomes*, often gets in the way of realizing the connection that is always present when I am observing.  Living in Hawai'i has contributed to trusting my direct experience. When I go to my direct experience, I do not find any boundary between "me" [...]

By | August 24th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Why does NVC focus on direct experience rather than creating a new belief system? By Jim Manske

Standing Your Ground on the Foundation of Intention

Effectively connecting to the Zero Step leads you to understand the needs you are hoping to meet before you open your mouth.  The next step to weaving a connected conversation begins with warmly and vulnerably exposing those needs when you start a conversation.  In other words, we let the other person know our intention and [...]

By | June 18th, 2018|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Standing Your Ground on the Foundation of Intention

Aloha By Jim Manske

In the language of Hawai’i, aloha means many things...greetings, farewell, love, compassion.  I have heard some say that aloha literally means "we breathe the same air".   The work of Marshall Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, NVC) points to this deep truth that unites all of humanity.  We breathe the same air. We are all connected, therefore, [...]

By | June 6th, 2018|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Aloha By Jim Manske

We made it home!  

It took 52 hours due to storms and rerouting - what an adventure!  We can share more about this when we see you. Here's what we are doing his week:     Monday 4:30-6:30:  9 Skills Navigating from Conflict to Connection Prefer to do this online on Tuesdays? Check out 9 Skills for Navigating Conflict on NVC Academy. For [...]

By | May 15th, 2018|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on We made it home!  

On Needs by Jim Manske

For me, the word “need” (as a noun)  points to the essential, intrinsic energy that impels movement toward survival and thriving within living organisms.  In other words, the power that motivates all behaviors. Essential means “absolutely necessary”. Intrinsic means “inside, coming from within” the organism.  (The dictionary says “belonging naturally”. Motivational means“spurring action toward a [...]

The Potential of Mourning Integrity by Aubree Moon

Week four of my internship with NVC NextGen is coming to a close, and there are many wonderful moments of learning to reflect on. After attending the last two NVC practice groups, I had experiences of the lessons integrating into my daily life. Last week, Jim and Jori taught about ‘have to’, as in things [...]

By | February 14th, 2018|Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC NextGen, Social and Emotional Learning, Uncategorized|Comments Off on The Potential of Mourning Integrity by Aubree Moon

Why did the chicken cross the road? by Jim Manske

My guess is before you even finished reading that sentence, you already knew the answer.  That ancient childhood joke has become part of how we experience the world at an intuitive level. Remarkably, for me, the joke contains an important insight into Nonviolent Communication (NVC). As humans, we intuitively know that every behavior is motivated [...]

Conscious Leadership and Nonviolent Communication by Aubree Moon

*Note:  Aubree Henke, a senior at Evergreen State University has recently begun at internship at NVC for the Next Generation.  Part of her studies includes periodic reflections on her learning goals and processes.  As "field supervisor", Jim Manske has the opportunity to work closely with Aubree.  When he received this first reflection paper, he asked for [...]

By | January 28th, 2018|Conflict resolution, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Nonviolent Communication, NVC NextGen, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Conscious Leadership and Nonviolent Communication by Aubree Moon

2017 Maui IIT Reflections

11/11/17 It is difficult to understand NVC without first opening up to the place of vulnerability. That word vulnerable has two meanings for me; one from a place of acceptance within yourself and an openness to explore reasons. Without this openness of being vulnerable NVC would just be a word or a concept for me, [...]

By | November 13th, 2017|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Nonviolent Communication, Nonviolent Communication for the Next Generation, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on 2017 Maui IIT Reflections

Applying the Lessons with Instant Results

"At an NVC parenting class I recently attended, I had the opportunity to go over an exchange that I had with my two year old son. The exchange with my son had left me feeling frustrated and sad, as well as at a loss for how to deal with his refusal to cooperate with me [...]