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Everyone is welcome to the NVC Community; By Jim Manske

For the last several years, the Center for Nonviolent Communication has been building a new organization and visioning the global NVC Community. I enjoyed working with a team of that included four other certified trainers; Eva Rambala, Mary Mackenzie, Gyano Shaw, Marianne Sikor. One of our tasks was to write a proposed purpose and mission for [...]

By | November 20th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Needs Awareness, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Everyone is welcome to the NVC Community; By Jim Manske

Why does NVC focus on direct experience rather than creating a new belief system? By Jim Manske

For me, I am learning that thinking (beliefs), although useful for 3 outcomes*, often gets in the way of realizing the connection that is always present when I am observing.  Living in Hawai'i has contributed to trusting my direct experience. When I go to my direct experience, I do not find any boundary between "me" [...]

By | August 24th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Why does NVC focus on direct experience rather than creating a new belief system? By Jim Manske

We made it home!  

It took 52 hours due to storms and rerouting - what an adventure!  We can share more about this when we see you. Here's what we are doing his week:     Monday 4:30-6:30:  9 Skills Navigating from Conflict to Connection Prefer to do this online on Tuesdays? Check out 9 Skills for Navigating Conflict on NVC Academy. For [...]

By | May 15th, 2018|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on We made it home!  

Update from Beijing; by Jim Manske

Warm aloha from chilly China! Savoring our workshop last weekend in Hong Kong gives me the sweet taste of connection and a deeper understanding of how powerful NVC can be to knit connection. About 35 participants joined us for 2 full days of exploring 9 Skills for Navigating Conflict. We supported people in finding the [...]

By | April 20th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Update from Beijing; by Jim Manske

Fear

Walking quickly and alone along a wooded path at the conference center, I heard heavy footsteps and I felt a stab of fear.  I looked up to see a deer about 20 feet away on the hill.  I felt relief and connected to the beauty of the life around me.  Reflecting, I realized that I [...]

By | April 9th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy|Comments Off on Fear

Infinite Possibility and Unimpeded Hope: NVC in Practice by Aubree Moon

Studying Nonviolent Communication in this dynamic blend of internship and academic study has deepened my understanding and proficiency with communication and self-awareness. The element of being a part of a community that values and actively practices NVC was incredibly stimulating. The multiple practice groups every week offered a dynamic level to my learning, and I [...]

By | March 19th, 2018|Classes, Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication|Comments Off on Infinite Possibility and Unimpeded Hope: NVC in Practice by Aubree Moon

Greater Self Empathy through Somatic Realizations by Aubree Moon

This week I had a somatic realization in relation to self-empathy. My partner and I had been talking and the conversation led us to both become slightly triggered. It was a mild upset, but we both needed a little bit of space to cool off. As I sat alone reflecting, I noticed a strong desire [...]

By | March 12th, 2018|Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Greater Self Empathy through Somatic Realizations by Aubree Moon

On Needs by Jim Manske

For me, the word “need” (as a noun)  points to the essential, intrinsic energy that impels movement toward survival and thriving within living organisms.  In other words, the power that motivates all behaviors. Essential means “absolutely necessary”. Intrinsic means “inside, coming from within” the organism.  (The dictionary says “belonging naturally”. Motivational means“spurring action toward a [...]

NVC in Action: Relationship Dynamics by Aubree Moon

  This past week, I had a conflict come up with my partner as we were going to sleep. I was feeling sad, and my sadness triggered his anger. He said something to that effect, and I was instantly triggered. A sentence rose in my mind, something along the lines of “I give you support [...]

By | February 20th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on NVC in Action: Relationship Dynamics by Aubree Moon

The Potential of Mourning Integrity by Aubree Moon

Week four of my internship with NVC NextGen is coming to a close, and there are many wonderful moments of learning to reflect on. After attending the last two NVC practice groups, I had experiences of the lessons integrating into my daily life. Last week, Jim and Jori taught about ‘have to’, as in things [...]

By | February 14th, 2018|Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC NextGen, Social and Emotional Learning, Uncategorized|Comments Off on The Potential of Mourning Integrity by Aubree Moon

Why did the chicken cross the road? by Jim Manske

My guess is before you even finished reading that sentence, you already knew the answer.  That ancient childhood joke has become part of how we experience the world at an intuitive level. Remarkably, for me, the joke contains an important insight into Nonviolent Communication (NVC). As humans, we intuitively know that every behavior is motivated [...]

How Do You Teach Empathy?

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED JULY 30, 2005 I like Marshall Rosenberg’s definition of empathy for its simplicity and clarity.  He says, “Empathy is the respectful understanding of another person’s experience.” We also distinguish between “empathy”, which focuses our attention and presence on what is alive in another person, and “sympathy”, which shifts the focus to our own [...]

What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? A CNVC Trainer’s answers

I’m grateful for the feedback I received from my last post.  Here comes two new questions recently posed on our trainer group along with my responses: What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? I enjoy the precision that comes when someone asks for the meaning of a word or concept.  I like slowing [...]

By | January 8th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? A CNVC Trainer’s answers

The Zero Step of NVC or “I’ll work on me, you work on you.”

Elizabeth “I’ll work on me, you work on you.” Once we learn a communication tool like NVC, our enthusiasm can extend to a heartfelt desire to share it with others.  We imagine that if we are benefiting from the tools of empathy, honesty and self-connection, those we love and care for will also.  [...]

By | December 26th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on The Zero Step of NVC or “I’ll work on me, you work on you.”

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on “mutual giving from [...]

By | December 11th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving