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Update from Guangzhou

Greetings, Friends, We’ve completed our plurk* here in China for this trip! Our first weekend workshop here in Guangzhou over the weekend included about 35 participants, most of them local, but some from as far away as near Beijing. We’ve been playing a game early in the workshop to ask folks to sort themselves by [...]

By | May 10th, 2018|Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Update from Guangzhou

Update from Beijing; by Jim Manske

Warm aloha from chilly China! Savoring our workshop last weekend in Hong Kong gives me the sweet taste of connection and a deeper understanding of how powerful NVC can be to knit connection. About 35 participants joined us for 2 full days of exploring 9 Skills for Navigating Conflict. We supported people in finding the [...]

By | April 20th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Update from Beijing; by Jim Manske

Update from Hong Kong; By Jim Manske

Hong Kong is like island living on steroids.  Surrounded by familiar tropical flora like ti trees and hibiscus flowers, the energy of the city vibrates with the constant background buzz of construction.  The skyline is dotted with lush green peaks and a myriad of industrial cranes hoisting new skyscrapers in every direction.  With a scarcity [...]

By | April 9th, 2018|Nonviolent Communication, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Update from Hong Kong; By Jim Manske

Infinite Possibility and Unimpeded Hope: NVC in Practice by Aubree Moon

Studying Nonviolent Communication in this dynamic blend of internship and academic study has deepened my understanding and proficiency with communication and self-awareness. The element of being a part of a community that values and actively practices NVC was incredibly stimulating. The multiple practice groups every week offered a dynamic level to my learning, and I [...]

By | March 19th, 2018|Classes, Compassionate Communication, Conflict resolution, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication|Comments Off on Infinite Possibility and Unimpeded Hope: NVC in Practice by Aubree Moon

Greater Self Empathy through Somatic Realizations by Aubree Moon

This week I had a somatic realization in relation to self-empathy. My partner and I had been talking and the conversation led us to both become slightly triggered. It was a mild upset, but we both needed a little bit of space to cool off. As I sat alone reflecting, I noticed a strong desire [...]

By | March 12th, 2018|Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Greater Self Empathy through Somatic Realizations by Aubree Moon

On Needs by Jim Manske

For me, the word “need” (as a noun)  points to the essential, intrinsic energy that impels movement toward survival and thriving within living organisms.  In other words, the power that motivates all behaviors. Essential means “absolutely necessary”. Intrinsic means “inside, coming from within” the organism.  (The dictionary says “belonging naturally”. Motivational means“spurring action toward a [...]

The Potential of Mourning Integrity by Aubree Moon

Week four of my internship with NVC NextGen is coming to a close, and there are many wonderful moments of learning to reflect on. After attending the last two NVC practice groups, I had experiences of the lessons integrating into my daily life. Last week, Jim and Jori taught about ‘have to’, as in things [...]

By | February 14th, 2018|Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC NextGen, Social and Emotional Learning, Uncategorized|Comments Off on The Potential of Mourning Integrity by Aubree Moon

Why did the chicken cross the road? by Jim Manske

My guess is before you even finished reading that sentence, you already knew the answer.  That ancient childhood joke has become part of how we experience the world at an intuitive level. Remarkably, for me, the joke contains an important insight into Nonviolent Communication (NVC). As humans, we intuitively know that every behavior is motivated [...]

Conscious Leadership and Nonviolent Communication by Aubree Moon

*Note:  Aubree Henke, a senior at Evergreen State University has recently begun at internship at NVC for the Next Generation.  Part of her studies includes periodic reflections on her learning goals and processes.  As "field supervisor", Jim Manske has the opportunity to work closely with Aubree.  When he received this first reflection paper, he asked for [...]

By | January 28th, 2018|Conflict resolution, Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Nonviolent Communication, NVC NextGen, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Conscious Leadership and Nonviolent Communication by Aubree Moon

How Do You Teach Empathy?

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED JULY 30, 2005 I like Marshall Rosenberg’s definition of empathy for its simplicity and clarity.  He says, “Empathy is the respectful understanding of another person’s experience.” We also distinguish between “empathy”, which focuses our attention and presence on what is alive in another person, and “sympathy”, which shifts the focus to our own [...]

What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? A CNVC Trainer’s answers

I’m grateful for the feedback I received from my last post.  Here comes two new questions recently posed on our trainer group along with my responses: What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? I enjoy the precision that comes when someone asks for the meaning of a word or concept.  I like slowing [...]

By | January 8th, 2018|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on What does a commitment to nonviolence mean to you? A CNVC Trainer’s answers

Questions and Answers addressed by CNVC Certified Trainers

Questions and Answers ~ Since I am a certified trainer with The Center for Nonviolent Communication, I have the benefit of participating in an online discussion group with my colleagues.  Recently one trainer asked the rest of us for feedback on some questions she had received from organizers of a project she was working on.  [...]

By | January 2nd, 2018|Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Questions and Answers addressed by CNVC Certified Trainers

The Zero Step of NVC or “I’ll work on me, you work on you.”

Elizabeth “I’ll work on me, you work on you.” Once we learn a communication tool like NVC, our enthusiasm can extend to a heartfelt desire to share it with others.  We imagine that if we are benefiting from the tools of empathy, honesty and self-connection, those we love and care for will also.  [...]

By | December 26th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on The Zero Step of NVC or “I’ll work on me, you work on you.”

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on “mutual giving from [...]

By | December 11th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Needs Awareness, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Self-Empathy, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving

Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred – a blog article by Miki Kashtan

...Although this was very tender for her, she wasn’t bringing it up for empathy or sympathy. She was bringing it up because she wanted to find a way to transform her thinking about what her sister had shared with her, so she would know what to do with the violent thoughts that were populating her [...]

By | November 20th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution Skills, Conflict Resolution Tools, Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred – a blog article by Miki Kashtan

2017 Maui IIT Reflections

11/11/17 It is difficult to understand NVC without first opening up to the place of vulnerability. That word vulnerable has two meanings for me; one from a place of acceptance within yourself and an openness to explore reasons. Without this openness of being vulnerable NVC would just be a word or a concept for me, [...]

By | November 13th, 2017|Empathy Development, Maui NVC, Nonviolent Communication, Nonviolent Communication for the Next Generation, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on 2017 Maui IIT Reflections

FROM NOW ON by Marshall Rosenburg

FROM NOW ON by Marshall Rosenberg From now on, I choose to dream my own dreams so that I can fully taste the mystical excitement of being human. From now on, I choose to empathically connect with others so that I can fully respect the unique and holy experience to be found in each person [...]

By | November 6th, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on FROM NOW ON by Marshall Rosenburg

How Nonviolent Communication Liberated One Former Inmate

"In the Nas song “Rewind,” there is a part in the beginning when he says, “the bullet goes back into the gun. ” As a former inmate who celebrated his one-year anniversary out of prison this month, I wish I could rewind and undo every violent experience I’ve had: a prison guard stripping me naked and [...]

By | November 1st, 2017|Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution Skills, Empathy Development, Nonviolent Communication, Social and Emotional Learning|Comments Off on How Nonviolent Communication Liberated One Former Inmate

Applying the Lessons with Instant Results

"At an NVC parenting class I recently attended, I had the opportunity to go over an exchange that I had with my two year old son. The exchange with my son had left me feeling frustrated and sad, as well as at a loss for how to deal with his refusal to cooperate with me [...]

Tips for a peaceful Thanksgiving

Greetings friends, And warm wishes on this national holiday of gratitude! To support peace and connection this Thanksgiving, please consider these tips for navigating your celebration with peace. Start with gratitude! (Details below!) Empathy before Education. Consider reflecting what is important to the speaker before educating them on your view. For example:Guest A says: "I'm [...]

By | November 24th, 2016|Nonviolent Communication|Comments Off on Tips for a peaceful Thanksgiving